The Daily Brave

Becoming Fearless

An 84-day guided journal for people who are tired of letting fear make their decisions.

One page a day for twelve weeks. Each morning gives you an inner exercise, one small action to take into the world, and a prompt to write about what happened. Softcover, printed by Amazon. Available now.

How it works

What you do each day

It is not a book you read. It is a book you live, one morning at a time.

Inner work

An exercise to write, draw, feel or explore before the day begins.

Daily action

One small brave act to take into the world, using what you just uncovered.

Journal prompt

A question to answer on the writing page, so the day turns into meaning.

All three matter. The change happens in the combination.

Go in order. The journal is built like a staircase, and each week stands on the one before it. The Test Mission in Week 5 lands harder because of the Fear Map you drew in Week 1. Skipping ahead is like reading the last chapter of a novel first: you can, but you miss the story.

You don't need to be ready.
You just need to begin.

Show up on the days you don't want to. Not perfectly, just present. Five minutes counts. Resistance is often the clearest sign that something important is waiting on the other side of the page.

Why 84 days ?

One full season of your life

Real change takes more time than we usually give it. One often-cited study of habit formation (Lally and colleagues, 2010) found that a new everyday behaviour took an average of 66 days to become automatic, and that was for simple habits.

This journal asks for something deeper: a change in your relationship with fear. That needs enough time to name your fears, feel them in your body, make friends with them, act against them, understand what they have been protecting, and finally love yourself through all of it.

Eighty-four days is twelve complete weeks, one season of your life. I believe it is enough time to become someone your fear no longer controls.

One week at a time. One day at a time. One page at a time.

The hardest part is the first page.
Everything after that is one day at a time.

Inside the journal

Twelve weeks, twelve frameworks

Each week draws on one established body of work, somatic, psychological or contemplative, translated into seven daily practices.

  1. Week 01

    Identifying Fears

    Somatic Experiencing · Peter Levine

  2. Week 02

    Feeling Fears

    Polyvagal Theory · Stephen Porges

  3. Week 03

    Making Friends with Your Fears

    Internal Family Systems · Richard Schwartz

  4. Week 04

    Courage Exploration

    Positive Psychology · Seligman and Peterson

  5. Week 05

    Test Mission

    Behavioural Activation and Exposure Therapy

  6. Week 06

    Vulnerability

    Shame Resilience Theory · Brené Brown

  7. Week 07

    Emotional Hygiene

    Emotional Intelligence · Guy Winch and Marc Brackett

  8. Week 08

    Shadow Fears

    Shadow Work · Carl Jung

  9. Week 09

    Existential Kink

    Carolyn Elliott

  10. Week 10

    Integration: Fear as a Superpower

    Post-Traumatic Growth · Tedeschi and Calhoun

  11. Week 11

    Medicine of Love

    Self-Compassion · Kristin Neff and the Metta tradition

  12. Week 12

    Our Light Is What Most Frightens Us

    A Return to Love · Marianne Williamson

Before you buy

Is this journal for you ?

Who it is for

People living with the quiet kind of fear. Not the dramatic, movie version, but the fear that keeps you in the wrong job, the wrong relationship, the wrong version of yourself. The fear that speaks in a voice so familiar you have stopped noticing it is there.

It asks for a few minutes each morning, a pen, and the willingness to keep going on the days you would rather not.

What it is not

It is not therapy, and it does not replace professional help. It is structured enough to guide you and open enough to surprise you, and honest about how long real change takes.

If you are in crisis or working through trauma, please use it alongside a qualified professional, not instead of one.

The book

A real book to write in

Made to be held, written in and kept.

Front cover of Becoming Fearless: gold lettering on black, an 84-day guided journal by Elad Alon.

Becoming Fearless

  • 84 daily spreads: the day's exercise on the left page, a full writing page on the right
  • 174 pages, 6 × 9 in (15.2 × 22.9 cm)
  • Softcover with a glossy finish, white paper
  • Printed and shipped by Amazon
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Printed and shipped by Amazon. Questions: eladalon@icloud.com.

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My story

A book I had to write

I did not set out to write a book. I set out to answer a question that kept showing up in my own life and in the lives of nearly everyone I love: how do I stop letting fear run the show ?

Over four decades of practice, somatic work, parts work, breath, prayer, ceremony, the body and the page, I have lived through what fear can take from a person, and I have lived past it. I wanted to make something honest enough for the version of me that needed it ten years ago, and beautiful enough that you would actually pick it up in the morning.

What you hold is a slow, generous sequence: one prompt a day, one small brave act a day, one line from someone wiser than me, and a quiet page to write on. No spiritual bypass. No "manifest the fear away". Just twelve weeks of sitting with what is real, in the company of teachers I trust, among them Peter Levine, Stephen Porges, Richard Schwartz, Brené Brown, Carl Jung and Marianne Williamson, and a structure gentle enough that you can keep going on the days you do not want to.

It is, in the end, a love letter. To you, to fear itself, and to the version of you waiting on the other side of the page.

Elad

About the author

Elad Alon

Elad Alon, black-and-white portrait: bald, grey beard, dark jacket and white shirt.

Author · Musician · Athlete · Father of three

Elad channels his energy into business innovation and personal growth, constantly pushing boundaries both physically and spiritually.

Elad Alon grew up in Jerusalem. Music became his great love: he founded The Mercedes Band, which became one of the most beloved bands in Israel.

He is a father of three daughters.

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

Joseph Campbell
With gratitude

The work this journal stands on

This journal stands on the shoulders of researchers, therapists, philosophers and teachers. I acknowledge them with respect and gratitude. The full acknowledgements are printed in the book.

Theoretical foundations
Week 01

Somatic Experiencing

Peter A. Levine, PhD
Waking the Tiger (1997) · In an Unspoken Voice (2010)
Week 02

Polyvagal Theory

Stephen W. Porges, PhD · Deb Dana, LCSW
The Polyvagal Theory (2011) · The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy (2018)
Week 03

Internal Family Systems

Richard C. Schwartz, PhD
Internal Family Systems Therapy (1995) · No Bad Parts (2021)
Week 04

Positive Psychology

Martin E. P. Seligman, PhD · Christopher Peterson, PhD
Authentic Happiness (2002) · Character Strengths and Virtues (2004)
Week 05

Exposure Therapy and Behavioural Activation

The cognitive behavioural therapy tradition
Graduated exposure, the basis of the Exposure Ladder
Week 06

Shame Resilience Theory

Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW
The Gifts of Imperfection (2010) · Daring Greatly (2012)
Week 07

Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Hygiene

Guy Winch, PhD · Marc Brackett, PhD
Emotional First Aid (2013) · Permission to Feel (2019)
Week 08

Shadow Work

Carl Gustav Jung
Collected Works, on individuation, projection and integration
Week 09

Existential Kink

Carolyn Elliott, PhD
Existential Kink (2020)
Week 10

Post-Traumatic Growth

Richard G. Tedeschi, PhD · Lawrence G. Calhoun, PhD
Trauma and Transformation (1995)
Week 11

Self-Compassion and Loving-Kindness

Kristin Neff, PhD · The Metta tradition
Self-Compassion (2011)
Week 12

A Return to Love

Marianne Williamson
A Return to Love (1992)
Also drawn upon

Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score, 2014), whose research on trauma and the body is foundational to somatic and nervous-system work; Viktor Frankl (Man's Search for Meaning, 1946), whose philosophy of meaning in the face of suffering runs throughout; and Daniel J. Siegel (Mindsight, 2010), whose window of tolerance and the practice of naming to tame are referenced directly.

Voices throughout
  • A. A. Milne
  • Ambrose Redmoon
  • Anaïs Nin
  • Anne Lamott
  • Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
  • Bessel van der Kolk
  • Brené Brown
  • Candace Pert
  • Carl Gustav Jung
  • Carl Rogers
  • Carolyn Elliott
  • Dale Carnegie
  • Dan Millman
  • Daniel J. Siegel
  • Deb Dana
  • E. E. Cummings
  • Eckhart Tolle
  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Erich Fromm
  • Frank Herbert
  • Fritz Perls
  • George Bernard Shaw
  • Guy Winch
  • H. L. Mencken
  • Haruki Murakami
  • Jack Canfield
  • Jack Kornfield
  • Jean-Paul Sartre
  • John Wayne
  • Joseph Campbell
  • Lao Tzu
  • Mahatma Gandhi
  • Marianne Williamson
  • Mark Twain
  • Mary Anne Radmacher
  • Mary Tyler Moore
  • Neale Donald Walsch
  • Nelson Mandela
  • Oprah Winfrey
  • Richard Bach
  • Richard C. Schwartz
  • Robert Frost
  • Rumi
  • Ruth Gordon
  • Sharon Salzberg
  • Sid Garza-Hillman
  • Sigmund Freud
  • Søren Kierkegaard
  • Steven Pressfield
  • Tara Brach
  • The Dhammapada
  • Viktor Frankl
  • Vivek Murthy
  • Walt Whitman
  • William James

Every voice quoted in these pages was chosen because it carries truth. I am grateful to each of them for the courage it took to say what is hardest to say.

Begin the journey

Eighty-four mornings is one season. It can start with the next one.

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